Letter to my 18 year old self

Updated: May 21, 2019


Do you ever look at your life journey up until this point & wish you could go back and tell, maybe even warn yourself of what is up ahead? I'm not saying I regret things & situations that happened in my life, because honestly there is no sense in regretting things you have no power to change. But there are things growing up I would improve within myself, if I could.

Eighteen is such a powerful age. It's that age where you mentally, physically & emotionally start to come into yourself. You toggle with the idea of coming out of being a kid & taking that step into adulthood. For me, 18 was a time, for the fist time, I actually stepped out on my own. And not just leaving for college, out of my momma's house, on my own. But making my own decisions & making a mental agreement with myself that I will live my life for me & my happiness, not for anyone else.

“So that's what I did!”

I moved 3,000 miles away from my family & the only home I ever to attend college in a state I knew nothing about & had no family in sight. I changed my life's course of going to medical school to become a pediatric neurosurgeon to studying theatre, film & television to have a career in the entertainment industry. Which by the way, wasn't the preferred life choice for me according to some people since I had basically been groomed to become a doctor since the age of 3. But I didn't care because at the end of it all, that is what was right for my life & what was going to make me happy.

Regardless of those life choices, there are some things I wish I could go back and tell myself at 18. Things that would have saved me so many tears, heartaches & mental struggles. Things that I wish I could have learned & implemented back then instead of struggling with them in my 20's & 30's.

  1. Your stubbornness is not a curse.

  2. You are so much more beautiful than you realize.

  3. That determined attitude and drive that you have - keep it. It's more valuable than you think.

  4. Follow your gut - not your mind contradicting your gut.

  5. Let no one strip you of your joy - NO ONE!

  6. Don't stress the small stuff - everything that is about to come is small stuff.

  7. He's fione! But he ain't that damn fione! ;)

  8. Don't think so much! Seriously - there are so many interesting people outside your head.

  9. Now that you found your industry - intern, intern, intern!

  10. You are perfectly imperfect - Own It!

  11. No one will see your full potential but you & that's okay. Have confidence & show them how wrong they are.

  12. That F.E.A.R you have - use it! Sing, model, act, whatever you want to do. I know it's scary but put yourself out there.

  13. Age ain't nothing but a number - stop thinking, saying, let others say your old & getting older - waste of time & energy.

  14. Do away with limitations - yours & others. That limit you're setting right now. Stop it!

  15. All those books you're reading? Keep doing it. At that pace. You will say you don't have time but make time.

  16. Start saving money! Right now! Even if it's in small amounts. Put it in a separate account & don't touch it, no matter what. *smacks hand* I said don't touch!

  17. Invent and patent Instagram, Twitter & Snapchat. (Hey . . . I'm talking to my past self here. Say you wouldn't do it)

  18. Don't be afraid of counseling . . . I know what you're thinking, but I promise it will make you a better person.

  19. Don't care so much about what other people think - family, friends, frenemies, random Sally & Joe - it doesn't matter because, in the end, everyone will ultimately look out for themselves.

  20. Stay humble but know your worth & command it!

  21. People will try to manipulate & make you feel bad. But don't. You are a great person & only God can judge you.

  22. Walk in heels for 15 mins every day - thank me later.

  23. Those ballet, jazz, piano & fencing classes you're going to take - stay with it & push yourself - again . . . thank me later.

  24. Study abroad & learn new languages - enough said!

  25. Don't be afraid to talk to people. Be curious, ask questions. They won't bite . . . and if they do, then on to the next.

  26. Do not shed another tear over him, it's his (their) loss.

  27. Go natural & stay consistent - I know it's hard but it will be worth the wait.

  28. You will not let people down by not doing what they want & compromising your true being - you will only let yourself down.

  29. You're awkward af. Other's will see it & may even point it out. But guess what, who gives a damn.

  30. You cannot . . . I repeat, cannot please everyone. So stop trying - do you boo!

I love my life's journey up until this point, it has only shaped me into the person I am today & continues to stretch & grow me in ways I can't even imagine. If you're anything like me, just know your journey up until this point is perfectly un-perfect. Everything that has happened is right in line with the path God has set forth for you & in perfect timing. So love yourself & your journey!

What is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?


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